Losing Sucks

There's no way around it - losing sucks every damn time. It sucks as an athlete. It sucks as an coach. It sucks as a fan. If I say everybody has experienced losing as one of these before mentioned. They all have their own bitter sweet taste and the taste is never for my liking. You can't win them all goes the old adage but I'll be damned if I ain't gonna try to win most of them! 

Wins a win. But since topic is losing we have only losing and not losing to deal with. And more importantly- how change losing to not losing. You hear this "learning from losing" shit and I want to leave that those who wish to do this. I don't wanna lose. Ever. Losing sucks. Sure it's the bounce back that counts but that's still missing the point. 

I remember vividly my last time as a competitor. Submission wrestling nationals. I was competing under 70kg. It was a bit of a struggle to reach that weight. On a scale that morning at the venue I hit 70.00 sharp. Felt like a million dollars. Strike one. I felt elated and so good that the effort and sacrifice put in the past 4 weeks paid off. Come game time I was working from the bottom like I usually do but really lacked the killer instinct and the hunger. The first too minutes spent on a guillotine choke that just twisted my cheek bone so couldn't really chew for a week after the contest. Then some position changes and a leg lock that's my bread and butter move but on a wrong hand. Didn't get it quite deep enough. Then we went to the judges score card and what I thought was extra period coming. Nope. For those who like to play it from the bottom this happens more often I guess. Sweeps and takedowns get handed out like freebies. Lessons learned. Stay hungry. And No amount of x-jumps and other cardio shit equals sparring with a living person. Bet it's like improving your sex game by just wanking a whole lot. Mental notes. Hate losing as much as you hate to tap and never do it. I can take the pain but not the shame. 

When I lose as a coach it's different. Every damn time I blame myself. I hate losing. Just FUCKING HATE IT! It sucks. Last time I lost was today. I know that the teams we're in a long run just better. We gave them a run for their money for the first half. The second I wish could forget. Losing drains you mentally and physically. Winning and losing is about skill levels naturally but at its most rawest form it's about being able to impose your will. In team sports this means you need people who down right refuse to lose. Like a goalkeeper who takes every conceded goal as an insult on a personal level. Then you really fight to keep you sheet a clean one. If you have to go down you take them down with you.

This is a two edged sword. On the other hand you should not dwell on defeats and on the other hand you should learn from them. I truly feel it's either or. To learn is to dwell. Hard part is not to know why you lost. It's not doing it again, ever, that's hard. Achieving this may actually require some major changes. In your game plan, in your training...sure you can also switch your FC piece of shit to the likes of FC Barcelona and you'll win more than you lose. Losing is exponential thing. Losing with you FC piece of shit is one thing - losing in the majors is another animal totally. Losing has levels. Losing when you really know you should and losing when in your heart you know you should have won. It takes no Einstein to figure out which pisses you off more. Losing the ones you had in the bag - fuck. This is the worst form of losing. 

This piece really has no higher meaning. Losing sucks. When losing becomes "it happens" you're out of the game. It doesn't happen. Losing makes you break umbrellas on the sidelines and scream your ass off and throw stuff. Good loser is adapting...to losing. Fuck it. I never adapt to that shit. Losing sucks. Big time.